Shyness/self confidence

Shyness/self confidence

I was talking to someone earlier today about how I hate being as shy as I am etc and she said, if I go see my doctor, they could refer me to someone that could help me (e.g. a counsellor).

The thing is that going to see the doctor about something like this seems to me to be a bit too much and a bit of a waste of his time really.

Does anyone know of any other ways that may be able to help overcome my shyness/lack of self confidence problem?

Thanks, in advance, for your help.

ask your mam, she's not shy

I'm annoyingly shy at work cos everyone else is too outgoing.. when i'm with most of you i'm pretty much my normal self (wanker!).. and I don't know how to combat my problem either.

do loads of coke nah, i think if you think its a problem you should go and see someone about it. ive done it myself, and it helps. if u need any other advice or want to know anything about it, just ask

People at my other job do that - go to the toilet quite quietly for a sneaky line and come back out perked up with a twitchy nose. Quite funny/sad I think

Just be shy!!

OK sounds stupid because you HATE being shy, but trust me I'm exactly the same! On here it's fine, I'm not around you, you can't see me, etc etc. But in real life I'd have my mouth shut half the time and the other half the time I'd be drinking.

So once I've drank enough I'm a bit more "outgoing" but that's just drink. Really, being shy isn't a BAD thing, it could be a good thing, at least us shy types don't talk for the sake of talking and then end up looking like complete idiots who can't shut up!

But if it really pisses you off I don't really know what a counsellor or doctor could do about you being shy. Fine I'm not a registered doctor (but who in the NHS is? ) but I think being shy is something that you can only overcome with going out lots and just getting used to being around people.

I'm not shy at all around my best mates, but when I meet you lot for the first time (probably Friday) then trust me I'll be shy!...Until I've had a few drinks.

*Phew* I wrote a lot there Time for my spaghetti bolognese (sp?)

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Re: Shyness/self confidence

Dont be so shy!

He can't

That wud probably help actually..............but I dont drink!

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Try it, its cant do any harm. At least you will feel like you have tried to do something about it, instead of letting it bug you all the time.

hmm i used to be really, really shy, first ever job was as a saleman for currys, only i didnt get very far as i couldnt aproach anybody.

asked to be moved into the stores and started sorting boxes out instead.

i cant rember why or how, but for sum reason, one day i just got sooo pissed off i changed and started over the top being "not shy" and it worked

sumtimes i still go red for the most rediculas reason, when asked "why are you red?" i will explain and nobody belives that i used to be really, really shy??

its wierd, try and think "fuck it" and see what happens, worked for me

was just gona post that.

i used to be (and still am deep down) very shy, but my way of getting over it is, as micky said, just put on a confident front, if you come accross to others as being confident, you'll feel confident in yourself. One of the blokes i work with the other day said to me that he thought that even though i might come accross as being quite confident, he thought i was actually quite insecure, which is right, and thats what makes me shy. my way of making a bit better is, i just talk lots to people, it seems like im being really confident and making an effort to make conversation, when alot of the time, its coz im nervous.

what ive found now tho, is that theres nothing left to be shy about, i mean ive ran round sumbodys garden in blyth 1st thing in the morning, while waving to traffic compleatly starkers for a laff and other plain stupid stuff (no substances involved, it was "dared" that i wouldnt do it lmfao)

consider it "forceing out your inner demons"

strip and parade, its your only hope

and i nearly caused a car crash

i'd say most people are shy deep down (some more than others)

im shy wiv new people but then when i get to know someone im able to be myself more and it goes away in time, just gotta have confidence in the fact that once someone knows you, they'll like you.... and if they dont its their problem

thats sort of what i think, if you like me, great, if you dont, then so fuck, chances are your probably a stupid cunt anyway!

nail on the head totally, imo you cant expect to get on with everyone so why waste your time?? too many arseholes out there to even waste your time

im finding that out more and more as each day goes by. You have to sift through a great big pile of arseholes before you can meet the people who truly matter, and even then, some of them turn into arsehole. Burn them all!